In my quest to apply the 12 step program to my marriage, I have reviewed them and decided that I think the first two steps need to be addressed together.
*Step one – I am not God and I am powerless to control my marriage.
*Step two – I believe that God exists, that my marriage matters to Him and earnestly believe He has the power to restore my marriage.
Exactly!! I KNOW I am not God and I admit that I am definitely powerless to control myself or my marriage. Actually, I am pretty much powerless to control anything. That doesn’t mean I don’t try to play the director of this lifetime production. I confess that my impulse to control people, places and events has slipped out of exile and tried to fix this.
That is where the real beauty of step 2 rescues me. Because I KNOW God exists, that I matter to Him and in turn my marriage matters to Him. I also earnestly believe that only HE has the power to restore me and, if it is His will, to restore my marriage.
“Happy are those who know they are spiritually poor. Happy are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
“In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.” Proverbs 16:9
“A man’s steps are directed by the LORD. How then can anyone understand his own way?” Proverbs 20:24
In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. AMEN.