4th & 5th Steps of My Marriage Step Study


make a list

Openly examine and confess my faults to myself, to God, and to someone I trust. (Steps  4 and 5)
“Happy are the pure in heart.”

I am afraid to look at how long since my last entry, but I will apologize for my temporary silence. Holidays, life and some doubts had me. Just like that… had me. Had me busy, distracted, and yes, even avoiding my journey.

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2014 is here now so Let me just say, “Happy New Year and let the resolutions begin”!

During this absence I was inspired by my own advice to someone else to reach out for professional and Christian guidance to try the same with my own marriage – rather, former marriage.

This step study idea is fine, but I knew it would take more than that for my ex to get on board. I knew we would need someone to help us and guide us safely and properly on this very important journey.
There were other reasons for this bright idea.
1. anything worth doing, is worth doing right (we kind of messed this up on our own in the past, so I hope that a professional will prevent a repeat)
2. fear of the unpleasant – some known, some unknown (surely a Christian counselor will be a good mediator and referee with this stuff)
3. all signs pointed to taking the next step
4. The Serenity Prayer told me so:
God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardship as a pathway to peace; taking, as Jesus did , this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your will; so that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with You forever in the next.

In Jesus’ Name, Amen

Anyway, I found the courage to initiate the first meeting, and invited my ex if he was ready too. He was – Amen again!!

So far, we have had two sessions. We have had homework assignments, marriage prescriptions to fulfill, and immense encouragement. The encouragement comes from all angles – from each other, from family, from friends, from our new Christian marriage counselor, and most especially from God. And, the really good news about all of this is that we have survived, thrived, and embraced this new focus. I think we are even looking forward to our homework assignments and exams we will face. It is important and worth it.

From the Catechism of the Catholic Church:A Perpetual and Exclusive Bond (1638)

“A valid marriage brings about a perpetual and exclusive bond between the spouses. In Christian marriage, the spouses are strengthened and consecrated by a special sacrament (Canon 1134)”

In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit….thank you and Amen.

ps. I especially enjoy the romantic gestures and hand holding our homework encourages. I really, really do. 🙂
Amen, Amen, Amen.

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